Hi Guys, I am new to game. Asking here because a lot of the guides I've read are for old patches of the game and everything has changed.
I've started an Ireland save with Dublin and just taken Kildare when inherited Leinster (took a few goes because I didn't realise how important best general is, or how crap initial ruler marital stats are). From a LP video, when the guy took it he was able to turn the Count into a vassal, but when I took the holding, the count became a prisoner, I forced a win condition to get the country but instead of him becoming a vassal he ran off to another court. So I'm confused there, how do you make them into vassals? Because I was over demense I gave it to my first pretender son, is that going to cause any problems?
One more thing too, I am confused by the marriage system and how to get vassals/counties into your kingdom that way, it doesn't seem to make sense. I can marry half-brothers and young sons to daughters of William of Normandy but I can't wed any daughter close to the line of succession of Irish Counts. Whenever I try to marry any them to sons or grandsons they say 'Wants Better Alliance' or 'Political Power'. How do you overcome that? I could marry someone further down but don't fancy killing into claim because plot power is so low (about 20%) to work.
Thanks.