The female protaginist can't be a carrier pilot, either. Not if the ship is missile armed.
I notice that Culise's avatar is female, but aboard a light cruiser... IIRC they're all energy armed. Assuming the CLs are all energy armed, and that the missiles don't refer to fighter based ones, thereby excluding carriers, we've got:
Rear Admiral Adamus - Crew Training 225, Fleet Maneuver 456, CA Ulyssys S. Grant
Commodore Velko - Crew Training 225, Fleet Maneuver 392, Terraforming 10%, Logistics 25%, CA Ute
Captain Reis91 II - Crew Training 125, Fleet Maneuver 279, Survey Bonus 15% - CA Ukraine
Commodore Lord Blekinge - Crew Training 175, Fleet Maneuver 454, Xenology 10% - DD Varangian
Commodore Stuckensmidt II - Crew Training 200, Fleet Maneuver 215 - CA Ulan Bator
Captain Forgiven - Crew Training 150, Fleet Maneuver 179, Terraforming 15%, Intelligence Bonus 15%, Logistics Bonus 20% - CA Uganda
Captain Aleksandr T. Rurikovich - Crew Training 100, Fleet Maneuver 170, Mining 20%, Logistics 15% - CA Ulan
Based on the crew training comments, I think it's either Velko or Adamus. I'm actually excluded because I'm on a carrier, which doesn't have missiles, but Stuckenschmidt isn't.