Ok, i just started a game as some african nation (Mali), and now i got a couple of questions regarding Tribal stuff.
1.Why do my units suck so much when compared to rebels? I can't fight against rebels if i outnumber them 2:1, because then i lose about double the amount of soldiers that they do. Not to mention that they lose maybe 200-300 and then run to the next of my provinces to ransack because it has no fort, which can go on for years until they are finally all dead. Even the 10:1 thing does not seem to work. I even have a general, sometimes even with 1-2 shock, while they got nothing. At the moment i feel like i can only fight them at 3:1 odds. This gets to the point that i hide from rebels most of the time while waiting for my manpower to fill up. What is the best way to fight rebels?
Unfortunately, there really isn't. The best thing you can hope for is to completely drain their morale and have them retreat into another one of your stacks before the end of the month.
2. Rebels with two different flags are the ones send by spies?
Almost always, yes. Basically it represents loyalties, so it's possible for patriots to occasionally be loyal to a nation without being sponsored by that nation. At least, I know I've gotten provinces from rebels I didn't sponsor as Byzantium before.
3. Next, how do i get a better state system? I researched government tech first because it said i could get despotic monarchy, but i can not change my government type. It says on the wiki that that change is only possible per decision, however there is no decision to be made. Do i need to westernize first?
It should be called "Reform the Government" or something of that nature.
4. This brings me to the next question. I see absolutely no way to survive if westerners try to attack me in any way because of my extremely bad soldiers. So is there a possibility to reach a more western nation without getting slaughtered if i get there?
Not sure what you're asking. Your best bet is to actually try and go north, possibly jacking something from Tripoli, and westernizing into the Muslim group. Their units should be strong enough to help you westernize.