Thanks for the research, Karlington. I am glad that you confirmed busy-ness can slow down Focus progress. It makes sense, but never dawned on me until now.
No problem - thanks for contributing your knowledge and experience! I learned something new from you, after all.
On a related note, Matilda has been slow to get Focus character modifiers. The first two were earned quickly; the rest have taken a decade+. I've been trying to pick up many different modifiers since they never go away, but my track record hasn't been the best:
- Seduction Focus (5 years) - "Aspiring Seducer", then "Seducer". [also got the Pox in less than 18 months]
- Intrigue Focus (12 years) - spying on different people the entire time, still took 10 years for "Amateur Schemer", then "Schemer" 2 years later
- Family Focus (10 years) - no modifiers, as I had the Pox, and didn't realize that Family focus events don't fire if you have an illness.
- Theology Focus (34 years) - only "Religious Studies" (+1 learning), no seclusion events for the first 30 years since I was often busy
- Rulership Focus (32 years and counting) - no modifiers yet, but have gotten Depressed, lost Arbitrary/Content, and gained Just/Ambitious
The Intrigue and Seduction focuses work a bit differently from other focuses. Instead of being increased randomly over time and with events, there is a leveling-up chance each time you successfully use the focus (i.e. the Spy On and Seduce actions). For Seduction it's 50% on success to get Aspiring Seducer, then once you have that, 20% on success to get Seducer. After Seducer each success has a 10% chance to give the choice between Master Seducer, Hedonist, and no thank you.
The % leveling up chances for Amateur Schemer, Schemer, and Master Schemer/Impaler/no thank you are the same on success.
(The Seduction focus also has a 5% chance of giving the Court Tomcat modifier on each success, independently of the other modifiers.)
In addition to the bonuses you see in-game when you hover over the modifiers, they also give a large increase in chance of success on future attemps, i.e. Aspiring Seducer greatly increases your chance of seduction success even if nothing else has changed. Same with Intrigue. For this reason it's often most effective to rapidly train up the modifiers on easy targets, then once you have Seducer/Schemer (or the lifestyle trait if you're going for it) you can go for your "real" targets.
With Seduction, invite a Lustful or Hedonist female to your court. They are almost guaranteed to accept if you use the lewd seduction option. I often invite 45+-year-old (so they are infertile and don't clutter my court with useless bastards) Lustful women and spam-seduce them until I have Seducer and Court Tomcat, then move on to the ones I really want to impregnate or make lovers.
For Intrigue invite 0 Intrigue characters. Your chance of success increases to the maximum level if you have 10 or more Intrigue higher than theirs. It also increases with the modifiers as mentioned above. If they have any Intrigue modifier or Master Schemer it will decrease your chances, so avoid those characters for training purposes.
Success chance is also massively boosted if your target is a member of a criminal society, if they have a negative sexual reputation modifier (an adulterer one, known sodomite, or cradle robber), or any of the traits:
Code:
OR = {
trait = hedonist
trait = drunkard
trait = impaler
trait = decadent
trait = bastard
trait = inbred
trait = dwarf
trait = homosexual
trait = gluttonous
trait = legit_bastard
}
If you take this into account you can level Intrigue extremely quickly.
Another somewhat gamey way to speed it up is to "Stop Spying" after each time, then use the decision again. When you use the decision the next evaluation takes place in 20 + random(20) days, but when it repeats the event again by itself it takes 40 + random(40) days, so you'll save an average of 30 days each time you do this.
(After you stop spying you have to forward one day to select Spy On again, so technically only an average of 29 days.)
You explained yourself why you didn't do well on the Family and Theology focuses. The Rulership focus is just notoriously slow to fire, averaging an event only many years apart, and even when you get a good event it has only a 15% chance of giving you a modifier.
Is it normal for historical "hard coded"* characters like Matilda to take such a long time to pick up ahistorical Focus modifiers? I know most rulers don't have 93 years of adult life to test out Focuses, so maybe I'm just being greedy.
* "Hard coded" meaning that her education and other traits don't change much from start to start (like Charlemagne or William the Conqueror).
Don't worry, we're all greedy in this game.

Hardcoded characters are no different from other characters when it comes to focuses and the like.