What are the rules for where newlyweds settle?

[Sir Garnet]

Most of the time, I'd like the newlyweds to stay in my court or realm. Things turn out to be more complicated than I expected. sometimes do not work out as I expect (I thought men in my court would not emigrate if wed to a foreign courtier).

The cases: [Edited after comments]

1. Male Courtier to Female Courtier: Male's location, unless Matrilineal, then Female's location
(use feminine wiles to lure able men to your court
2. Landed and Courtier: Go to Landed's demesne
3. Landed and Landed: Remain each in own demesnes.
Distance is no bar to having children (must meet incognito for trysts)

Council status, heir status, or prince/princess status appear to have no effect. If you want your heir to marry a landed lady and bring that land into your dynasty, make sure he is landed and you have a regular marriage rather than a matrilineal one.

 

[fenwayb]

I thought it was always to the mans court, unless the woman is landed, then she stays at her court and he stays at his

 

[TheChronoMaster]

Matrilineal is always at her court, Normal is always at his.

Exception for landed -- anyone who owns land doesn't move, so wed characters can be in different realms entirely.

 

[SirNiven]

Matrilineal is the only exception to a female from moving courts and as fenwayb said, and If she is/also landed.

 

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If the woman is landed and the man isn't, the man does in fact move to her court, even if it isn't matrilineal. Marrying off a male relative to a female ruler so that their child becomes the count/duke/king as a member of your dynasty is awesome. I love the dynasty spreading aspect of this game.

 

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Also note that the men and women of the game can get frisky even if separated by thousands of miles.

 

[Sir Garnet]

Matrilineal is the only exception to a female from moving courts and as fenwayb said, and If she is/also landed.

Problem is - there was a superb Marshal who was unlanded and wishing to get married. To help keep him happy, I found a good stats courtier for him (i.e., courtier title, no landed title shown on the brides list), after which I noticed he disappeared to join her. So I wondered if there was some other aspect of status which led my Marshal to leave.

Also, what does matrilineal do exactly to change where the female ends up if she is not landed?

 

[Pewt]

Problem is - there was a superb Marshal who was unlanded and wishing to get married. To help keep him happy, I found a good stats courtier for him (i.e., courtier title, no landed title shown on the brides list), after which I noticed he disappeared to join her. So I wondered if there was some other aspect of status which led my Marshal to leave.

Also, what does matrilineal do exactly to change where the female ends up if she is not landed?

Assuming that you didn't marry them matrilineally, it's possible that your marshal's wife inherited some land.

 

[JackTheRipper21]

I was playing as Duke Azzo D'Este err... maybe its Alberto (used to them in Crusader Kings where names were different) Anyway I married my heir Ugo D'Este (who was also my steward) to Matilda di Canossa in a regular marriage. I hoped he would stay in Lombardia as my steward (he had 15-16) and whatever midas touched is called now. So if the wide is landed males move to the females court, even if they have a court position. Game ended too quickly though, Ugo never inherited Lombardia because Azzo who starts at 65 years oldlived to the end of the demo, but Mathilda ended up imprisoned and executed by the Emperor

 

[Sir Garnet]

Assuming that you didn't marry them matrilineally, it's possible that your marshal's wife inherited some land.

Regular marriage. Wouldn't any land she held when marriage was proposed be indicated in her bride list description? Or maybe she received land between the offer and the acceptance or the next couple of days (is AI clever enough to make a quickie land grant to snag my marshal?). I didn't award him land yet since I wanted to marry him up first.

May being the direct or second or third heir to a ruler or a pretender, or a prince/princess, matter in these results?

 

[Sir Garnet]

Updated the first entry to state the rules.

 

[Dsuke]

Marrying off a male relative to a female ruler so that their child becomes the count/duke/king as a member of your dynasty is awesome. I love the dynasty spreading aspect of this game.

When it works it's awesome. My experience with the situation is that the female ruler usually gets imprisoned, the relative usually gets knifed and any offspring usually returns to my court. Usually with claims, which is also awesome...