While you might not want to go as far as Absolute until you're down to Byzantium and anyone else that's too big for a single vassal to deal with, forcing those vassals who have no exterior targets to stop warring each other will have them eventually start using all that would-be levy wages to actually develop their fledgling realm instead.
On the note of Byzantium, I recommend expanding up to Africa's northern coast before they gain a foothold on it. It's really their vassals expanding in that direction and the player will have too large an army size for them to be interested in attacking, but it's still a pain to take it from them since you have to fight the entire empire for it. If you take the land before they go there you avoid the problem entirely. I managed to avoid Byzantium completely on my second go thanks to just heading straight up to the coast after forming my first empire and conquering enough so that anyone who wanted a piece would either have to fight me, whomever held the kingdom of Egypt, or the blob of allied Muslims in the north-western part of Africa.
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