Or just try to vassalize them in your current save.Ah, then you want to run either an "Evil" empire setup, or assuming you have the Apocalypse DLC, research and build a Colossus
Evil Empires - Fanatic Purifier, Devouring Swarm (Requires Utopia DLC), Determined Exterminator (Requires Synthetic Dawn DLC)
all of these give you an option that is pretty close to "Because I want to"
that requires you to not be evil and for them to view you as vastly superior [either for you to make that demand or for them to ask it of you]Or just try to vassalize them in your current save.
seems an oversight.
If you have the apocalypse DLC try this from the wikiseems an oversight.
An Empire that owns a Colossus gains the ability to declare Total Wars on other Empires. Similarly, any Empire can declare Total Wars on the Colossus owner. During a Total War, any systems captured by either side will be immediately annexed and the war can only end in the total destruction of either side or a status quo.