Wait, so once and for all, what do I need to declare myself a warlord? I thought I just had to conquer provinces but the king of Anvil seemed to have it a few months after the game started
To better represent the "Warlordism" alluded to in Cyrodiil and beyond I added several pre-existing warlords dotted around. You can get the trait via the Warlord Ambition, but you also have to fulfill certain requirements (having an ambitious character is generally the best root, but if they're craven they won't have the option).