Right now, in the presence of even a single free 'xeno' species, I feel as though the original majority/home species simply stops reproducing, or has their reproduction much too heavily reduced. Then, if the Xeno species starts spreading to other planets, this causes a cascading effect of the 'home' species simply withering away until 'parity' has been the two achieved.
This is both 'unrealistic' and very frustrating.
Basically, forces you to choose beween 3 rather poor options
1) Heavy handed population control policies
2) Playing Xenophobe
3) Watching your Home species become immediately displaced because you 'dared' to allow a minority pop to exist within your borders.
Either weight a majority species to have some sort of favoritism in pop growth (to represent the larger growth inherent in a larger base value), or simply add a random element, but this 'weighted for parity' is just infuriating.