I'm not suggesting count level vassals, in my current Roman Restorian campaign I have duke level vassals and three king level vassals (Georgia, Sicily and Africa). You don't have to be gamey, you just have to play the game and plan the strategy. Yeah we could have an option to turn it off but we'd need options to turn off demense limit, religious marriage etc. Its a core feature which seems to be universally needed.
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