John, thanks for taking your time writing your long post. I can see you are earnest in what you write and I will try to respond to all of your points of view.
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King John said:
Daniel and others, maybe the reason HG didn't order a rehost immediately was that Daniel never answered his question, "was the war real or fake?"...
As you can see from FAL's answer he did get a response. The actual sequence was
"HolisticGod :Is it a real war with the OE, Daniel?"
"Daniel A :Real!"
"HolisticGod :Rehost in Jan."
"HolisticGod :God damn it."
Of which I only saw his first question.
King John said:
With that out of the way, I will tell you the main reason what you did so angered everyone.
One, as Cheech pointed out, your method of righting the situation was to demand an apology without even explaining who you demanded an apology from, as if it was obvious. Maybe if you'd expressed yourself clearly, explaining who you wanted an apology from and for what, you would've gotten one and we could've sorted things out.
I am sure HG understood well to whom I was referring. But sure, I should have said something to the community as well, to make the whole thing more clear. I apologise for not doing that. I will do that the next time if there ever is one, heaven forbids.
Read the log and take a guess on the probability of HG giving me an apology. It is quite obvious, I believe, when reading the log afterwards, that he would not.
King John said:
The second problem with what you did was that you held up the game, pausing it as though what you had to say was so important it couldn't wait until after the session, or even after the war. Nobody likes it when you hold everything up. I'm pretty sure nobody thought it was important for that pause. You did that for like five minutes before finally leaving. If you had the patience to wait until a more appropriate time to bring out your case, none of this would've happened.
IMO it was "so important it couldn't wait until after the session".
I had just been accused of cheating and lying. Perhaps you are more accustomed to such things and believe it to be a bagatelle. Well in those circles I move around it is not. And from the action I took, leaving the game, you can see it had great importance not only for me but also for you, the whole game, because to lose a regular perm is that serious. Do you not agree?
King John said:
Thirdly, when the GM deliberately told you to unpause and play the game, you showed no respect, you brushed his authority aside without the slightest acknoledgement, instead stubbornly insisting that you get an apology before continuing to play, without being very helpful about it at all.
As I wrote I considered my "contract" with him (and thus with the rest of you) as broken by him by his behaviour. Thus I was under no obligation to show him respect, nor obedience. I was just kind enough and gave him one last chance to save the situation, i.e. to make an apology.
It was up to
him to show respect for my honesty, to show that he took my word about what I knew and not knew as the truth, rather than believing himself to be an allknowing God who had complete knowledge of what went on in my brain. But he failed to do so. Instead maintaining I was a cheater and a lier.
King John said:
You should be more patient and be willing to compromise by waiting until after the session or for peace to discuss the issue.
I am very patient with some things, such like province edits needed because of the bug that colonies and TPs goes to the alliance leader regardless of the peace conditions. And similar.
I am not patient when someone characterizes me as a crook. That is something entirely different.
King John said:
... but hopefully this serves as a valuable lesson for avoiding this very unnecessary kind of misunderstanding in the future.
I still fail to see any misunderstanding. HG believed I cheated and lied and I understand that this is what he believes. I have not misunderstood him.
Perhaps you believe he "misunderstands" me? E.g. when I say that I did not know that Cheecho chrashed. Then I say to you as I wrote to Mulli above: how can such a simple message be "misunderstood"? It can be "mistrusted", as it was, yes. But that is not the same thing as to be misunderstood, very far from it.
I understand very well what is the real basis for what happened. Thus I know the proper thing to do in order to avoid this situation in the future. And that is to choose more carefully whom I play with. And my decision on that matter has been taken.
