Why are we assuming life would develop like it did on earth 1 planet is not a big enough sample to assume what life on other planets are what if they arent even carbon based life for instance what if the creatures breath nitrogen instead of oxygen.
Oxygen is abundant and offers a good Energy defect towards other very common Elements (like carbon), while also allowing a energy effective return cycle (photosynthesis).
There are only so many elements in the Periodic table, and how common they are is based on galactic factors.
We might not share a planet, but we do still share a set law of physics and a universe. Possibly even a galaxy.
I am not considering Earthlife the gold standart. I consider it "bog-standard".
Again isn't the thin strip that the sun isn't fully in the sky isn't that an area were life can exist?
You are mixing up "Tidally locked, only 20% Population capacity" with "Tidally locked, but stil la nice place to evolve".
Tidal locking throws the habitable segment of the planet totally out of whack. And the climate too. On earth we could only use 30% of the surface area. But at least the other 70% go towards a stable climate.