Your message on female queens has made me think of something sorely lacking in this mod: Courts of Love.
Much mythicised as they have been, courts of love, the culture of fin'amors and courtly love was a reality of the nobility, born of several circumstances (like people being out crusading). Poems by troubadours describe a level of sexual freedom and debauchery that's hard to consider seriously, but thankfully their poetry is not the only witness we have left.
A circle of troubadours and jongleurs, a court of poets and singers and a retinue of young "pretenders" that compete to climb their lady's chamber in this parallel of the feudal pyramyd, that's a reality in the mid-XIIth until the late XIIIth Century (albeit the tradition becomes much more "pious" after the Albigensian Crusade and the spread of the Dominican Inquisition in Southern France), would appear with an event that signals the Dawn of Troubadours, and end (maybe) at 1300, or when the Pope launches a moral reform (Innocent III's all-powerful tentacles)... ant it's also something that would give women much more appeal and role.
So far, women don't do much except do some plotting from time to time. Which is a shame. Queens don't fill my ears with tales of distrust and mischieve concerning my trusted achancellor, Duchesses don't form parties of dashing young barons waiting for a prize at her service, and strong wives don't actually do much. Even when they're rulers themselves. You'd expect much more relations from a couple of married kings. A more intimate kind of diplomacy.
I realise how hard might it be to bring the right amount of gender interaction into the game, but well, I think it's worth trying.
