Well, let me rephrase : I do not think it is cheating to look through the courts of Europe for a suitable marriage, even during the week, so I don't think it matters what technique you use to do so. Now, loading up as a rival is plainly cheating, but loading up as yourself and offering a marriage to every court in Europe to see what they have, well, why not? I can't be bothered, myself, but I don't see why you shouldn't do it if you were so inclined. It's not that big an advantage; if somebody is so dedicated to our game as all that, more power to them!
By the way, I know that nobody ever reads a first post, and anyway Trav hasn't updated the rules section, so let me summarise the rules we have agreed on for the benefit of our new players :
- Gentlemanly conduct is required at all times. You are certainly permitted to ravage another player's kingdom, carry off his daughters and his treasure, kill his armies, and force him to sign a humiliating peace; but be polite about it. No swearing, no name-calling.
- No diplomacy with the country of a player who isn't present - this is less important in CK, of course, with its limited diplo options. Also, no DOWing an AI'd player country; if it DOWs you, you can defend yourself and take a province or two, but no total rapings. However, a player who is often absent may find the rest of us not enforcing this rule any too strenuously.
- If you attack a country, you must have roleplay reason for it, and it must be publicly stated. It doesn't have to be a good reason; "He laughed when my horse stumbled at my recent tournament" will do. But some kind of reasoning is needed. Also, you'll probably find it easier to garner support for an attack on a player country if your reason has some kind of ingame relevance.
- You cannot grab a Duke or King title from an excommunicated ruler; this is to avoid gaminess where the Papal Controller excomms someone purely for the purpose of getting claims. You are permitted to grab a claim, to any title, from someone who isn't excommed; if you have that much prestige, some nice King claims are your natural reward. Also note that you can grab as many Count titles as you care to, even from an excommed ruler, and you can always usurp a title.
- Avoid AFKs. By Murphy's Law, we will always crash in the middle of one, and then the rest of us are stuck waiting for our one AFK player. If it's something really unavoidable, ok, but at least give notice, and be prepared to find we've crashed and gone on without you. And AFKs of the style "watching the TV in the other room at the same time" is really a bit rude. We're here to play, not watch you watching TV.
Above all, be cheerful! Nobody is out to get you. Your lands, yes, your daughters if they are hot, your treasury, certainly. But it's nothing personal! We just want to reduce you to vassalage, so your children will be servants of our children forever. Smile, and hide that dagger.
