Intention, Good Faith, Prestige

[daftrhetoric]

My ruler reached majority and I tried to make his betrothed his ward, he's a prodigy and I want her to be, too. Her guardian is mismanaging educating her native genius.

The obvious justification for the reason 'Child would be a hostage in a foreign power.' is that I could break the betrothal after she arrived at court and gain a hostage.

My suggestion is betrothal should be treated more like a non aggression pact, alliance, or truce. Breaking a betrothal should cause a scandal at the expense of both opinion and prestige.

Is it naive to think prestige is, more than anything else, how seriously a character's declarations of intention are received?

 

[Dracko81]

That isn't the issue. The issue is you are a foreign power, the AI will never let you hold a courtier from their court willingly. Nor would you willing send your sons/daughters off to random realms to be educated.

You might be able to do it with a favour though.

 

[daftrhetoric]

@Dracko81 My point is that my play revealed a problem with betrothal qua personified affairs of state. The thread is not an appeal for change to a mechanic incongruent with my invitation strategy.

 

[Dracko81]

The obvious justification for the reason 'Child would be a hostage in a foreign power.' is that I could break the betrothal after she arrived at court and gain a hostage.

@Dracko81 My point is that my play revealed a problem with betrothal qua personified affairs of state. The thread is not an appeal for change to a mechanic incongruent with my invitation strategy.

I'd beg to differ.

 

[Dragatus]

Nor would you willing send your sons/daughters off to random realms to be educated..

If I didn't have any quality educators at home, but there was a Kind and Patient Grey Eminence/Midas Touched courtier in some foreign court, I'd send my kids over without a second thought (using vanilla education). Unfortunately the AI stopped accepting those offers in one of the recent patches (I believe it might have been 2.5).

 

[Dracko81]

If I didn't have any quality educators at home, but there was a Kind and Patient Grey Eminence/Midas Touched courtier in some foreign court, I'd send my kids over without a second thought (using vanilla education). Unfortunately the AI stopped accepting those offers in one of the recent patches (I believe it might have been 2.5).

The AI is more than happy to take your courtiers hostage.

If that isn't working than that would be a bug. Additionally doing this allows the educator to switch culture and religion, which is why you are pretty much blocked from taking them. Otherwise you can switch a possible heir to another culture/religion.