You aren't blind. A few weeks of EU is just beginning. Welcome to the maddness!
A few notes on gifts:
Your monarch's diplomatic rating will have a large impact on the improvement in relations. (A low rating may even hurt relations, so be careful).
Sometimes 1 gift of state=+15 in relations. While the very next gift=+100 in relations. It's strange.
It's always good to send letters of introduction to your allies...from time to time. Keep an eye on your relations. They will slip (depending on many factors such as your BB rating (for more one the BB see the FAQ) and your religious tollerance.