I noticed that the Jomsvikings are enatic in my games (they are started by a male but after that the leader is female and succesion is enatic open elective,) while the other holy orders are agnatic even though the religion is enatic. The varangians are weird too, if you reform the germanic religion with enatic doctrine. The succesion is agnatic, but the second a new leader is elected is immediately replaced by an unreformed germanic woman named Bothildr. Also in enatic germanic you get the event of your child leaving for varangians only for daughters, while only males leave for the jomsvikings, which is kinda weird.
TBH, I'm not really bothered by holy orders remaining agnatic, or male still being commanders, even in realms with an enatic religion, since I think that the idea of a matriarchal society meaning that women fight and men care for the home is dumb, and not that matriarchal, but I digress.