Help! My heir/son is a foreign King...

[DCP]

Hey guys so here is my story.

I was playing as a petty King in Ireland. He had 1 legitimate daughter and 1 bastard son. I chose not to legitimize the bastard, and married my daughter to the King of Scotland.

Just when I thought I had the time to get more sons, I died and my daughter inherited my throne. Now because she was married to the King of Scotland, her son does not have my name.

I quickly murdered my husband and got a new one under a matrilineal marriage. BUT! My very heir, ie, my eldest son, is still of my ex-husband's name. And I can't plot against him coz he is my son. I can't assign him to some weird dangerous task because he is not in my court, and is the King of another country....

Am I screwed here???

 

[Lingvort]

Indeed you are, in a way. Your best bet would be to try and change the succession law so that he does not inherit, but I assume you're playing as a Tribal king, meaning that your options are limited. If you don't have Tanistry, you should probably aim at getting that.

 

[Ilion]

If you manage to get an heir of your dynasty, and land him/her, won't the game continue with you taking over that character when your present character dies?

I'm thinking that since this second heir wouldn't be your primary heir, you may even be able directly give him/her most of your titles before you croak, which might help with making a come-back.

 

[Castimirr]

If you manage to get an heir of your dynasty, and land him/her, won't the game continue with you taking over that character when your present character dies?

Apparently that only works if you get unlanded by a revolt (which would be an option for the OP) or conquest. According to the wiki dying with a non-dynastic heir is game over, even if there are suitable characters to switch to.

 

[Naughtius Maximus]

Indeed you are, in a way. Your best bet would be to try and change the succession law so that he does not inherit, but I assume you're playing as a Tribal king, meaning that your options are limited. If you don't have Tanistry, you should probably aim at getting that.

He should be fine if he's tribal. Elective Gavelkind is dynasty only.

OP you're looking for in order of preference

1. Ultimogeniture if you have a younger son
2. Elective Monarchy if you have a firm grasp on the election
3. Tanistry if you must
4. Seniority if you must
5. Elective Gavelkind if you are too unstable and need the opinion boost with vassals.

 

[prismaticmarcus]

now you see why matrilineal marriages are important