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Yeah, in my current game one of the patricians is really strong and granting him independence could really screw him over. Also, if their capital is coastal would they remain a MR and keep their trade posts, or lose the posts and form a new MR?

What happens if you declare independence from within a Merchant Republic. Is it game over or will you become a competing MR? Will all your trade posts carry over?
A patrician who has a coastal capital and is at least duke tier becomes a new merchant republic on independence. If they have trade posts in their owned land or neutral territory, they will remain, but any trade posts in the lands held by their former republic will be destroyed.
 

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What happens if you declare independence from within a Merchant Republic. Is it game over or will you become a competing MR? Will all your trade posts carry over?
In one of my MR games I created the kingdom of Venice and the kingdom of Croatia. Upon succession I kept Croatia and lost Venice. Unfortunately I couldn't play much further than that. Would've been fun to compete for the trade zones.
 

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I'm an empire level MR and created a second kingdom but the game tells me I will lose this second kingdom to another patrician family. Is that right? Do I have to move my capital to a duchy in the second kingdom?
 

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Will vassals convert their counties' culture to their own if it doesn't match their liege's? At least if they're in the same culture group?

I'm playing as Prussians and expanding eastward, I don't want Lettigalians and Lithuanians gone, so I've been giving new counties to randos of these cultures in the hopes they convert them and all three cultures expand.
 

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Noob question. I'm playing on a Shattered World map and haven't played for quite a while. One of my first pop-up reminders is "Title Loss on Succession", letting me know that my non-heir son will inherit one of my counties, leaving my heir (me) with just two of the current three. Is this just sort of informational, or is it something I should actively do something about? And if so, what? Thanks for replies!
 

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Noob question. I'm playing on a Shattered World map and haven't played for quite a while. One of my first pop-up reminders is "Title Loss on Succession", letting me know that my non-heir son will inherit one of my counties, leaving my heir (me) with just two of the current three. Is this just sort of informational, or is it something I should actively do something about? And if so, what? Thanks for replies!
It is telling you that your heir will not have all the titles you currently have, and is thus mostly informational. If you are a duke, you could grant your second son the county he stands to inherit to make the alert go away, but there really isn't reason to do so unless you are over your demense limit by a lot. Alternatively, you could change your inheritance laws to something that keeps lands together (i.e. anything except gavelkind, elective gavelkind, and elective with multiple king+ titles). As for whether you should do anything, that depends on your goals.
 

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It is telling you that your heir will not have all the titles you currently have, and is thus mostly informational. If you are a duke, you could grant your second son the county he stands to inherit to make the alert go away, but there really isn't reason to do so unless you are over your demense limit by a lot. Alternatively, you could change your inheritance laws to something that keeps lands together (i.e. anything except gavelkind, elective gavelkind, and elective with multiple king+ titles). As for whether you should do anything, that depends on your goals.

Awesome, thank you!
 

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What's supposed to happen when you hit 100% legend in a warrior lodge? It's been at 100% for many years now and nothing has occurred, and I don't have any decisions available regarding it. I'm the lodge leader, if that matters.
 

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I've seen a few mentions around that you can save a generated random/shattered world map so that you can play in it again. Anyone know where I can do that? I must be missing something obvious.

Edit: Nevermind, I figured it out. It's under the alternate starts folder in save games.
 
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As a duchess, how do I change the succession law in a non-primary duchy? Their laws don't show up in the law screen, but currently my two non-primary duchies are still gavelkind while my primary duchy is elective.
 

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What happened to the "Form the HRE" decision for charlemagne? I have italy, romagna and all the kingdom titles between Saxony and Aquitaine.
 

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I just got Conclave and... what's with the education system creating rivals against me? I have 4 kiddies rivals now. It's a new game, they're my first batches of kiddies and 4 of them already rivaling me. What is up with that?
 

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I just got Conclave and... what's with the education system creating rivals against me? I have 4 kiddies rivals now. It's a new game, they're my first batches of kiddies and 4 of them already rivaling me. What is up with that?
It's an event that fires when your wards reach 14. Doesn't matter if you're the parent.
Just don't choose the option for the child to get Ambitious trait
 

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I just got Conclave and... what's with the education system creating rivals against me? I have 4 kiddies rivals now. It's a new game, they're my first batches of kiddies and 4 of them already rivaling me. What is up with that?
Read before you click on things and this won't happen.

When they become 14 you can influence their education. If you have two stats above 10 you can give them the ambitious trait in exchange for rivalry with you, give them the patient trait in exchange for -2 for you on almost all skills or give them the diligent trait while you get the stressed trait. Or not to give them anything.

That's why you always assign your best, most pious, etc courtier as court tutor so you're not bothered with helping some rando kid you don't care for. And that's also why you always assign a guardian to all your own kids after 12 so they get the better trait out of their childhood trait and so it's someone else who gets the rivalry, the stress or the penalty.