Way of Life is very good imo. It allows you to change your attributes in the short term (e.g. family focus adds 2 diplomacy, 1 health and fertility) while giving you events over time that help you make some interesting/good choices (e.g. I played as a Norse chieftain and focused on War. My character started training and improved his martial score over years. I later switched to family focus and helped two of my children become friends which helped my dipomatic successor as his warrior brother was still his friend into adulthood).
I haven't got conclave so can't say anything about that.
I haven't got conclave so can't say anything about that.