I always offer my heirs as a ward to the most skillfull dudes. I never have anybody as a guard because most of the time you get stress if you want to give your ward good traits. Seeing others comments about my take makes me think maybe i am a bad parent lol.
I do the same thing, I want my children to actually be competent and have good stats, and since learning is basically the only thing that really determines that, I give them to the Court Tutor, or the person in my realm with the highest learning...because that's literally their job. The stress gains are ridiculous for these events and most of the options are things I never want to begin with. Besides that, you can only watch 2 kids at a time, if you have more than that, which you can't control, your gonna pass them off regardless.
The choice is typically pretty simple. Raise kids myself and they end up fairly useless due to terrible stats and I get to enjoy the same copy paste events with outcomes I typically universally dislike that blow up the stress meter, or I pass them off to someone smarter than me, and get a child who actually knows wtf their doing when they grow up...you know, just like real life when you send your kid to mandatory schooling everyday.
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