Hi wiz,
I wish to question the severity of the ugly trait for women. I had a female ugly ruler yesterday and found that it was extremely difficult to hold my duchy with her. I did some investigating and found that just being ugly was singly the largest malus in the game. (on par with excommunication) If you rack up the maluses ugly for women is -1 diplo, -10% fertility, -30 relations with 99.5% of all characters in game, even churchmen. I mean, one trait shouldn't, in and of itself make an otherwise excellent ruler (grey eminence, just, temperate, diligent, tall, 15 diplo score,) almost completely untenable. I agree that the penalty for excommunication is about right, but ugly? Perhaps the malus could apply to single males and not churchmen or married men? or perhaps ugly could be a -20% to fertility and a lesser relations hit. Feel free to do as you wish of course.