You're pointing on the tricky side of the traffic engine of the game. Your best bet is the Traffic Manager, as Ristosal told you, but it won't solve exactly your problem, you'll just be able to limit the worst behaviors of the vehicles.
The behavior of vehicles is almost entirely dictated by (didn't try the last DLC, but I would be surprised if it has changed) :
- their destination, including every intersection to calculate a predefined path
- the time they will require to reach this destination. The shortest distance is not always the fastest, it can serve you well for dedicated ring road or shortcut. But they don't take into account the traffic jam at all
Now, for each intersection a vehicle has to use, the traffic engine will set their path to the closest line of the exit by default. Thus, to turn left, the path will be on the left line of the road. But if the vehicle entered this very road on the right line, they'll need a certain distance to be able to change to the left line. And if this distance is too short it could cause a jam. It's likely what's happening to you, as Ristosal pointed out.
You have several solutions :
- increase the distance between the two 2-lanes roads merge and the next intersection to give time to the vehicles to change their lanes in a smoother manner.
- use a dedicated road (quite impossible in a city) to by-pass the merge, for each of the opposed road
- if the vehicle flow is composed of several types of vehicles, try to use a dedicated road for some of them that don't pass through this intersection, to diminish the overall flow, and get rid of the jam (by using the Traffic Manager)
- forbid one or the other way in the intersection, with one-way roads for examples. This would likely diminish the jam by making less vehicles line changing on this distance. Obviously, you'll need another intersection further for them to reach their destination.
Anyway, post one or two screenshots to show the overall situation and one to show precisely what's happening between the merge and the intersection. It will greatly help us to try to solve your problem with the Traffic Manager or the vanilla engine.
Also, you cannot set the "main road" for any vehicle. It's allowed or not, but nothing else.