That's a decent explanation for the fact that I have most of southeast asia, but it doesn't explain why I should be losing at all with the most powerful nation in South Asia. I should have been able to accomplish so much more...
And this is the real reason I was losing. I have been playing a Tuscany game and noticed just how much greater I was doing once I consolidated religiously. That was the issue. It was the first game I tried with set army composition, and I didn't recognize how important keeping them at that level is. It wasn't a curse, just me not understanding the one true God that is consolidate.
Consolidation is not always good to use ALL the time. If you're not careful you find yourself with an undermanned infantry line and you start getting penalties to your cavalry. If you're a pretty small nation at the start of the game, yeah, go ahead and consolidate all you want, you probably aren't fielding enough troops to run into too much trouble, and you can always hire a couple mercenary units to refill your infantry if you end up losing individual units, then replace them later on after the war while you are recuperating. Later on though you might consider peeling off individual units that have been near devastated and send them back to friendly territory to reinforce for a few months and then bring them back, units get reinforcement penalties in enemy territory. This will help your income bounce back faster as well if you're riding on the edge of barely affording an active full maintenance army. With a larger army you can rotate stacks in and out of the front lines. Chasing down a large stack you want to try and wipe is the only time you might want to just consolidate willy-nilly.