I'll be happy to beat up on you enigma, its pay back time.
It seems major has discovered the problem of why we are dropping out. Please have a read through this, its a bit technical but read the conclusions.
http://forum.paradoxplaza.com/forum/showthread.php?t=225334
Basicaly its a number of problems between software and the routers. Its to do with Direct X and the NAT on our routers. Now if it was only my router on a NAT it would be fine as im the host, but there are others on a NAT which is causing probs. Basicaly whats happening is that after 30 seconds or so or in activity by the host or other players the game loses connection, this can be directly caused by "pausing the game". So i propose that we do not pause any more, if you need the game to run slower due to so many things happening just ask the host to slow it down.
Like on Jan 1st or when doing builds ill just turn game speed down to very slow and you will just have to do the best you can. This should help speed the game up a little anyway and if it avoids crashes great.
There is little else that can be done to avoid the problem.
Cya at 12.