Gyla is unlanded and in your court, so in theory only you can give her away. What is happening that makes you say that Falki gave Gyla to Frodi? There must be something, but it's not clear.1019-05-16: Rikulfr commits suicide, Falki inherits from his son, Gyla comes to Emperor Starkadr's court in Vingulsmark.
1019-05-24: (Save game is here) Emperor Starkadr (me) summons random Suomenusko Content Genius guy to come to Vingulsmark.
1019-05-30: Before he can arrive, Jarl Falki of Bergslagen gives Gyla, his ex-daughter-in-law, to Jarl Frodi of Varend (just some Jarl, otherwise uninvolved in all this) as a concubine.
It's not a direct answer to your question, since I don't look inside save files very often, but I have observed that some popups are preserved if you save/reload. (The obvious example is events, including any random outcome. But I think selected diplomatic events might be preserved too - eg. peace offers. Marriage/betrothal/concubinage offers might theoretically be preserved.)Are unresolved diplomatic offers included in the save file?
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Assuming you're looking for ironman-compatible workarounds, here are a couple of possibilities:
- Generate a holy man (lose 5 piety), keep the dialog onscreen, marry him to Gyla (you both lose 400 prestige), kill him via the dialog.
- If it's an outstanding/bugged diplomatic offer then the fact she was married for an instant might invalidate it. (Or it might not, eg. if it's only invalidated on the next day tick.)
- Generate holy men until you get one with near-zero intrigue, marry him to Gyla, then plot-murder him.
- A 6-month delay in the wedding is a small price to pay, right?!
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