One of my favourite all-time moves, was as an HRE Duke I persuaded the heir to England to come to the court, assassinated his wife and matrilineally married him to some random kinswoman. A few years later a permanent dynastic alliance with England
I’ve never thought of using the debutante thing, but I may start using it when I run out of courtiers. They are useful for assassination plots, I use courtiers to infiltrate the target’s court by marring them with his/her courtiers.
once again, paradox, PLEASE fix this next patch.
I just had to reload a save because i gave my heir a barony (he's heir to a duchy) he used it get a random lowborn (who's tengri at that, while we're orthodox) seriously, using it to get a random lowborn to marry just doens't make sense. there's a lot of courtiers in the marriage screen, even if you're a baron you could find someone better to marry than a random wrong-religion lowborn.
I know I could have done the situation better, but that doesn't change the fact that nobles marrying random low stat wrong religion lowborns isn't very sensible; not when they can find someone better, and they mosdt certainly can if they're willing to accept random courtiers; they should be able to find someone on the list who'd agree.
But most times you have a healthy court at game start and you can inter-marry them to the point you won't ever need to invite new courtiers. Just have to go back every 10-20 years and make sure the new blood is refreshed.
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