Is there an easy way to appoint a particular noble to command of a particular army? I find it handy to retain a small band of mercenaries for policing duties but I can't figure out how to make my Marshal (or anyone else) get off is butt and take command. The only way I can see to make it happen is to raise another army with the Marshal in command and join the two, which kind of defeats the purpose.
Second, is there a way for my unmarried male ruler to propose marriage to an unmarried female ruler? Presumably this would result in a merging of the two domains, but I only seem to be able to offer members of my court as suitors. The titled female inevitably turns them down because she has nothing to gain by marrying one of them. Female rulers all seem to go Queen Elizabeth and turn into old maids.